It’s pointless to worry about things beyond our control. It doesn’t matter how well we portray ourselves to other people or how much effort we put into coming across as confident and perfect, people will always have their opinions about us. We have our private thoughts on them and they will inevitably have their own private thoughts on us. No soul alive can stop this from happening so the only logical thing to do, as far as I can see, is to completely disregard its importance. All those people who we believe are thinking about us inside their head have the exact same worries we do. They are also left with the worry of caring what we think about them. The only thing which makes this less of a reality to us is the fact we cannot directly access or experience the thoughts of others for ourselves, but regardless of whether we know or accept this truth, it still remains an ongoing reality for every single person.
This has been the only true way in which I’ve been able to stop caring what other people think about me; it’s completely beyond my control, so what good would it do me to care? None of my caring will ever stop people from thinking so I might as well sit back and let it happen as I undoubtedly know it will.
Acceptance liberates us from most forms of suffering and this constant fear or worry of what others might think of us can become a form of suffering if we allow it to dominate our lives. Accept and let go. It’s the only way.
There comes a point in your life when you realize who stays forever and whose just around for a while. Always remember that people will change, so will you. Sometimes change happens for the best and sometimes for the worst. Bad things happen to everyone, you’re not in it alone. People will lie to you, hurt you and try to break you & when your hurt they wont give a fuck about how you feel. That’s life.. Your heart beats, no matter how much pain you’re really in. Everything will eventually be okay in the end.
“If it’s not okay, It’s not the end.”
Creations of thought is all we are, architects of our own adventures. Our journey through life is a solitary one. Everything we are, everything we think and feel is trapped within the walls of our own being. No one can access the inner secrets we hold, they belong solely to us. No one can hear our inner voice or know what truly sets our spirit alight. We may tell others our experiences or how we think and feel at a certain time, but that deep visceral understanding can only be known by us.
The human experience is inherently lonely. People may walk the path of life with us on our travels, but ultimately, we are all alone within our own experience. All we can ever truly know or understand is what happens within us, everything else is uncertain.
Our purpose is to find our own light, our own sense of stability in a world full of lies, tricks and distractions. The only battle we will ever have to face is ourselves against the world. We must not allow the darkness of the world to pull us into its abyss. We must find our own light from within and use the limited time we have to experience as much as we possibly can.
Life is a mysterious journey through random experiences. Every moment of our conscious existence is spent experiencing the world we were born into. How we choose to interpret these experiences is ultimately what shapes our attitudes and beliefs on life.Experiences in themselves are neutral. What makes them “good” or “bad” is how we react to them.
There will be times of joy and happiness but also times of sadness and sorrow. This is not only inevitable, but to be expected. We cannot always control the experiences we have, but we can develop ways of coping and managing them. Good times and positive experiences will inevitably be met with negative experiences and bad times at some point – there’s no way around it. But things do eventually balance themselves out; sometimes in profound, obvious ways, and in other times more subtle ways which are difficult to see.
Life becomes more bearable when we realize that there is a balancing system to almost everything and that there’s no real reason to fear the bad times because they are potentially a stepping stone towards something good and positive. It just takes time.
With the knowledge that things will eventually find their own natural balance, we can approach negative experiences with more optimism and less dread. Somewhere down the line, bad experiences will balance themselves out with good experiences. It will happen of its own accord irrespective of human desire or will. We cannot change or directly alter life, but we are more than capable of changing ourselves and how we interpret the world around us. The trouble is, people are often too wrapped up in the madness of life to ever stand back and see things differently. We view all our difficulties and hardships as things projecting into our life from the outside world, when in reality, it is usually how we think and feel about certain things which create the conditions for the difficulty to exist in the first place.
“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”
Missing someone is a feeling that can easily destroy ones inner peace. It leaves you restless, thinking for hours. The kind of ‘miss’ that leads to insomnia! That’s what i’m feeling like right now.
At times I feel like i have everything where its supposed to be, life feels like a blessing and when reality hits I realize nothing is the way it could be.
Life is limited for all of us, we should be able to live it the way we truly want to, do the things that make us happy and be with the ones we love!
Sometimes we face very tough situations in life. Very often we have two choices-either to let go or to hold on, And that can be the hardest choice you’ll ever make. In life we get used to some things, we love certain things, people or feelings so much that once they are gone we don’t accept it. We feel that we still have them and we can still get it all back, And this denial that we live by is what makes us hold onto things we know we should let go off.
We know that certain things we do are bad for us. We know it’s going to hurt us. We know we may regret it in the future, but we still go running back to it. The reason for this may be ‘true love’ or it may just be our illusion or image of what our life should be like. Smokers know that smoking kills, yet they do it. Alcoholics know that they are on a wrong path, yet they don’t quit. Lovers know that their love might destroy them, but they yet can’t stop loving.
Sometimes your heart and mind becomes so used to pain and hurt that even if something good happens you refuse to accept. You don’t want to believe the good. You want to hear hurtful things and see hurtful things so that you can further drown in your misery. You like the sadness. You like being hurt. You feel that the universe has been unfair to you and this or the resentment with life helps you to go on. Many people call this unhealthy and it is very unhealthy for our mind, But no amount of lectures or talks will make you get over this feeling. We keep living like that, wanting to feel more pain every day.
But the truth is, it does get better. With time you realize you’re worth more than you thought, you find a purpose to live, you find a reason to be happy. Slowly the want for pain and hurt leaves your heart and your soul, you keep hurting, but one morning you will wake up and realize the hurt is healed, the pain is less and the desire to be happy creeps into your soul rejuvenating your mind.
So if you’re in pain and you’re hurt just hold on….Hold on till the last ray of hope. Hold on till the stormy clouds fade away and the sun shines brightly in the sky. Most importantly….
“Hold on, because the pain you’re feeling now can’t compare to the JOY that’s coming!”
“If he’s amazing, he wont be easy. If he’s easy, he won’t be amazing. If he’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, your not worthy…. Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.”
— Bob Marley, Guitar Chord Songbook.